An Introduction
Written by sayingitall on April 25, 2008 – 11:20 pm -You can call me Lola. I’m a sex-worker. I’ve been working in the business for almost a year. I wanted to post a bit about escorts in general before I tell any tales simply because there is so much misconception and revulsion for those of us who take this path.
Hollywood and popular culture will tell you that I’m a woman who was abused. That I’m a victim. That I’m just waiting for my Prince Charming to come ”rescue” me. That I’m hooked on drugs and walking the street trying to make enough to support my habit. . .and my pimp’s habit. Or that I’m just a whore who can’t remember how to cross her ankles.
In my time as a sex-worker, I have met a lot of girls who meet all those stereotypes and go a whole lot deeper into Hell than I ever want to go. But there is a smaller group that I call home. We are smart, charming, conversational, witty. . .and loving. We provide what is called a GFE. . .A Girlfriend Experience. All the good parts of having a girlfriend without any of the drama a relationship or affair can cause. I spend more time talking and listening and providing a hug and a kind word than I do having sex. I am a counselor, a friend, a confidante.
My average client is a man over 60. He’s either married and in a sexless marriage or widowed and lonely. They have the disposable income to pay for vacations and hobbies and anything else they want. And what they want is someone who will always be loving and kind and compassionate. Someone who will greet them with a smile and a kiss, hold them while they cry out their childhood trauma, rub their shoulders and make them feel adored. Any friend can rub your back, but you PAY a massage therapist to do it right. There’s no difference, really. We are professional girlfriends.
As for me, specifically. I’ve always had a circle of friends who knew they could call on me in times of need. I love unconditionally and share myself openly with those I love. It’s just hard-wired into me. Some of my earliest memories include sitting in my highchair, kissing boys, and masturbating. Some of you will be sure that I was molested or abused in some way. Trust me when I say I’ve explored that path from end to end and there’s nothing dark in my past. I’ve come to the point where I just chalk it up to ultra-speedy reincarnation. Suffice it to say I’ve been a sexual being for every concious moment of my life. So, I was already living the life-style long before I got paid. It was only a small step for me to start getting paid just for being myself.
So, I’m here to share. . .and break down prejudice. . .and just basically to open perspectives. Feel free to ask questions or comment.
Thanks for reading
Lola
Posted in Uncategorized |
Hollywood and the media do tend to go for the sensational and shocking and usually find plenty of material to work with. It doesn’t help that feminists and conservatives alike look down upon your profession. But don’t give up, there are people out there who are willing to listen before jumping to conclusions.
Oh, and by the way… I was one of those rare girls who has been masturbating for almost as long as I can remember. People have told me I was probably abused, but I can’t remember anything like that. It’s just as if I always knew how. I was a very sexual kid. It’s comforting to hear that I am not alone in that.
I look forward to hearing what you have to say!
<3 Evokateur
I too was a very sexual child. Born that way.
Lola, I am thoroughly excited about your writing and will be asking questions and pondering your words. THANK YOU for sharing. This is incredible!
xoxoxox, Jungle Jane
Ask any questions you like, darling. I’d be happy to answer them. You have intrigued me since you were Jane in the Jungle. Looking forward to sharing with you.