Its so difficult…
Written by misanthropy569 on January 27, 2009 – 2:55 pm -I just really don’t know how do go about meeting a decent girl that wants to kiss me when she’s sober.
Yeah, it’s fun. You go out with a friend or friends and 3, 4, 5 shots later she’s mauling you in the bathroom. Then it’s “I’ve never been with a girl” or “It’s been so long.”
Well what about calling me, going out, getting frisky after just one drink? How about even just coming to my place? How about not freaking out about what you did, or pretending you don’t remember? How about considering anyone elses feelings?!?!
Now, making out with drunk girls is not a favorite habit of mine, but it seems to be one of theirs. All my female friends and aquaintences know that i am openly Bi. I guess they see this as an opportunity to use me for an experience. or maybe they really do dig me. I don’t know. I just wish one of the would call me up and say “Come by and hang with me” and not “Lets get drunk and see what happens”
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I know exactly where you’re coming from. I’ve been in your situation more times than I count, whether they are drunk and wanting to ‘explore’ their sexuality, or wanting to use me as a teacher and then move on without a word or even trying to maintain at least a friendship. I’m not looking for a longterm type of thing, but I would at least like a friends with benefits type of situation. It’s girls like the ones you describe in your post that have driven me away from looking for a relationship or even friendships with other bi-women.
I hope this situation improves for you and if you’re ever in Colorado let me know and maybe we can meet up sometime.
This is the most infuriating issue for me. I thought maybe somehow I was getting all this bad awful luck with women, because I thought it was just me. I end up attracting the “unsure” woman who’s had one too many drinks, and pretends not to know you the next day. I think girls need to have more consideration for the other party involved. Some, but not all take intimacy lightly, and sometimes we can feel a bit dirty and used if we’re treated like that. Gahh!, don’t even get me started!!
OH, I’m so sad that these things continue to happen. Bella, I’m sad that you aren’t even managing to have friendly bi friends. . .wish I was closer and we could spend time. . .
I wish I had words of wisdom to offer, but there are none. . .like any relationship, there are differing expectations. I love my girls, but I haven’t found that one woman who fits all my needs. . .but I’m a hopeful romantic. I refuse to believe that she doesn’t exist.
Gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. . .
Love Light and Blessings to you all. . .keep the hope alive!
Oh, and I didn’t mean to imply that any of my girls are frogs. . .oy. . .
Sweet heaven, I should think before I type. . .
Let’s hope for not too many warts along the way…wow that came out wrong.
My wife and I, are into couples and single f’s, and this is also a pet peeve of hers - it seems many women to get over the taboo of being intimate on a casual, but sincere level with another woman or couple need to be drunk. It gets down to there are very few people who feel it is OK to be sexually expressive of their personal interests.