Hotel Bliss Guest Blog

Possibilities for Dreams to Reality

My husband and I have always been together with the belief in polyamory (the belief in many loves). We are not swingers, nor have one of those “open marriages” like people often assume. There are many definitions of polyamory and they very for each person or couple. For us, it is the actual belief of building an extended family of deep friendships and lovers. That all these friends and lovers know of each other and “gel” with one another.

My dream, if it was legal, I would actually wed 2 men and 4 women; well for me that would be heaven! They would marry as many as they loved and we would all live in one big community!! Not to be a cult! We have no religious affiliation and in fact despise organized religion. We just believe in that unconditional love. “There are as many forms of love as there are moments in time.” - Jane Austin

That quote is really the appitamy of what we believe. I love love and have so much to give. I have found a man who believes the same and lets me be me. Whether I want some “strange” or I want to love another I have that freedom and so does he. Ahhhh the idea of utopia!!

Since living in New Mexico two and half years we have met many wonderful people that we love deeply. Many platonic and many more in-depth than that. But we include them all in our family status and I truly am blessed. Even so neither of us had met anyone to take the place of a deep love.

Very recently my husband has obtained a new lover, one who is such a wonderful addition to our poly family. I look forward to building a friend ship with this woman and she really has quite a lot to offer to this family. She was/is a hard core swinger and is now being introduced to a new life and way of thinking. I always find it so amazing when we can touch someones life to the point of opening their eyes to another way of life.

I don’t have a problem with swingers they are just VERY different from poly families. Swingers are very much into an anonymous sense of sex. You are lucky if you know names or anything about the people in swinger clubs and situations. We had even been shunned from a swinger group one time we went to a party. Once we mentioned our belief system about caring about the person we fuck no one would even talk to us after that. We now have introduced to another wonderful human being that there is more out there if you want it! Ahhhhh I get all mushy thinking about it.

In addition to my husband new lover I have also met a man. A very wonderful man whom has had a very “vanilla” life. Vanilla meaning for him, has only had monogamous relationships. When telling most men about my beliefs they jump into this creepy kinda conversation of, “so that means I could fuck you and that would be okay?” It can be quite disgusting trying to meet men to bring into a poly family and has always left a sour taste in my mouth. Which is why I usually only dated women, until now.

“Dean”, I actually met in a bar of all places! We talked, flirted and really had a connection from the moment we looked at each other. Normally I do not tell someone I just met my situation but I felt this time was different so I told Dean. (this is also a great test of what type of man I am talking too) His response was not a typical male response. He actually had intelligent questions and responses and genuinely wanted to know more. He asked for my number and we parted ways.

Now he didn’t write down my number so I did not expect an actual phone call so I chalked it up to just a moment  of great conversation and didn’t think of him again. To my surprise, two days later he called. We had more great conversation and he asked if he could take me out that night. I agreed with one condition, that he must meet my family and he agreed. He ended up flaking that night and again I wrote him off. I was thinking okay flaky guy, not really as different as I had hoped.

However Dean surprised me with perseverance with continued calls to apologize and more calls with great conversation and he asked me out again. I gave him a second chance and this past weekend we had a date.

I didn’t have any expectations of this date but when one persists and is willing to meet the family for a first date you must give some respect for that. When he arrived he handled himself very well. Was polite, respectful and all around charming. Ofcourse, just before leaving I ask my family (consiting of husband, girlfriend and cousin) what they thought. As always they said it is really all about how he treats you if he is a good man. (i just love my family!!)

First we went to dinner and the more Dean spoke the more I became open to him. His conversation was very intelligent and he was also very nervous. That to me  is adorable!! A 46 year old roughneck nervous and intimidated because of me?!?! Damn, that’s sexy!!

After dinner we went to a casino while walking to the casino he asked if he could hold my hand. He asked for permission?!?! Oh wow, that’s new to me!! We arrive to the first bar in the casino to have a drink. More intelligent conversation although a bit of him babbling from his nervousness. He then asked permission to kiss me. How do you say no to someone who asks permission??!!

That kiss was the moment we really connected! I hadn’t had such an amazing kiss since I met my husband. Kissing, it really is so important to me! We continued to another bar, talked, kissed and then went to play some black jack. By this point it was like I just couldn’t get close enough to this man. I could not keep my hands off of him!! This never happens to me, I am usually very reserved and controlled on a first date!!

We returned to one of the bars, kissed, hugged, held hands with more great conversation then danced! A man who likes to dance!!?? I’m toast!! LOL I really wanted to spend time alone in a quite place with him but didn’t want to say anything. He asked what I wanted to do and I wanted to leave the casino. He asked if I wanted to go to his house and couldn’t believe that yes came out of my mouth!!

To be continued……..

Seriers coming soon - Friends and Lovers

I want to have a series of “There are as many forms of love as there are moments in time.” Friends and lovers will be my soon to come series of the most special loves of my life current and past.

Does it sound interesting enough?

August Brunch

I am the first to arrive as usual but this time I have sexy Susie to keep me company and get some tables together. Now as usual we had a ton of girls RSVP that they were attending and the norm is only half show up. We gathered together about four tables and 8 chairs in anticipation of my guestimate. I excuse myself from the table and grab some fruit and tea.

As I am waiting in line the two most sexiest women, whom I was lucky enough to spend some time with alone last night, come prancing in all dolled up so fantastic. Anna and Dee!!! Now let’s get this party started! They both are dressed to nines and let me tell you did they turn some heads that day!! Anna in her pink skirt and stripper shoes, Dee in the black slit skirt and off the shoulders top was enough to make any girl/guy hot!!!

Carly was the next to arrive and for the next 30 minutes it was just us four. Carly was talking about bringing a session to Albuquerque for women sexuality wich we all agreed would be a great idea and the conversation picked up from last night about female ejaculation. “The first time I ejaculated I though I peed!” That was my statement about it and come to find out almost every woman there thought the same thing. “Every man should be instructed on how to perform it!!”, “In fact I sent a thank you card to a lovers ex-girlfriend for teaching him the things he did.” said Dee.

Everyone one of us promptly agreed that there should be more instructional videos on the female ejaculation. Tell me have you ejaculated? Have you made a woman ejaculate?? Just would love to know……

Soon after we were joined by five other fabulous women and I actually was able to introduce them all to each other. (very proud because I am bad with names) I love the diversity in the women you meet at events like this. We had a couple of ladies brand new to Albuquerque and I think this was a great introduction to them both having moved from larger areas.

9 fabulous women showed to this brunch, the best turn out yet!! Conversations ranged from raising boys and how do single mothers deal with penis issues to wanting to plan a float in next years pride. A few of us were discussing attending a Dominatrix show later this month when Gina informs us, “The dress for the next show is duct tape.” “Duct tape?! You mean we make an outfit from duct tape!?!?” I was in shock to hear this in Albuquerque of all places. Being from the San Francisco bay area someone could say that and I wouldn’t flinch. There was a sense of glee that washed over me and thought to myself, how wonderful a place I have chosen in Albuquerque.

We then discussed the different colors and uses of duct tape and all the connections Gina has to costuming, including liquid latex. Ahhh latex!! One of my most favorite things to play with!! We soon learn that her connections could possible get us a large penis and vulva costume for pride next year on our float. We all agree what a great idea!!! And here begins the spawn of Albuquerquer’s Bliss Warriors float for next year! I am so excited!!! (anyone with thoughts and ideas to do this would be greatly appreciated!)

This blog is a short one because I just can’t properly represent how wonderful this month’s brunch went! Ladies thanked me for hosting and I informed them of Thursday’s Happy Hour open to all men and women. We huged and said our goodbyes.

If you would like I have posted a short, not very good quality video that you may view in my basement on Hotel Bliss. Special thanks to Bliss Warrior for creating the forefront of a bi-sexual movement. May you continue to inspire world-wide!! Much Love!!!

Bi-Freedom Re-cap

Brunch

It’s a beautiful July 5th in Albuquerque and the first to arrive is the always glowing so bright, Anna. She just lights up any room she walks into!! Breathtakin as always, and no matter how often I see her I am always excited!! She was shortly follwed by two other amazing beautifull bi-girls, Gina and Denise.

Our conversation begins surprisingly by discussing how Denise’s relationship is going with her man. She had recently had some jealousy issues come up in their open relationship. This lead to open conversation of all of our green monsters that come out with those whom have different “arrangements” than other couples. All four of us at this table are in a relationship with a man and have so much in commong with our trials and tribulations! How wonderful to know you are not alone!!

Discussions move on to talk about wild parties, one night stand and modeling. All of our ears peark up when Gina is discussing meeting a photographer at her friends dominatrix show. “Dominatrix show, here, in Albuquerque?!?! Where?! When?!?”, the three of us say almost in unison. “Give me details!”, I said and we all giggled. Oh, how wonderful it is to find that sisterhood with Bliss Warriors!! (Thank you Bliss!) Listening to Gina describe the scene we all discuss our “alter” egos and talk about Denise’s alter ego, Sacha.

After finishing our titilating conversation about doms and subs Gina says, “Maybe it would be okay to discuss with you something that has happened recently?”. And of course after all the lovely conversation how could you not be comfortable sharing something intimate? Gina did indeed share a very intimate moment with her man that she wanted our opinion on. And who could help but be so happy for the moment she trusted to share with us?!

Our 3 hour long brunch ends with what we are wearing to dancing tonight. Denise unfortunately can’t attend but the 3 blonde bombshells have decided to all wear corsets! Watch out ladies!!

Dancing at Exhale

Anna and I are the first ones to arrive. Anna looks amazing in her corset and jeans and I in a corset and capri’s. The looks we receive right away are a tell all to just how hot we look tonight!! We grab some drinks take a couple of pictures and wait. And wait. Just as we think no one else is going to arrive this HOT HOT HOT brunette in a pink corset waves at us. I turn to Anna and ask, “Who is that?!”. “OH MY GOD, IT”S GINA!!!”. Not only had Gina worn a pretty pale pink corset, hot black skirt but a hot black wig to boot!! Anna and I could not get over how amazing she looked! I said to Gina, “I already had a crush on you, but now?! My heart’s all a flutter!!” She graciously thanks our praise and we all hug and kiss.

While Gina goes to get herself a drink we are joined by a very lovely, retro lesbian woman Anna had complimented earlier. While Anna and Coleen are deep in an intense conversation Gina and I exuse ourselves to go dance. Now take two sexy women, in sexy corsets, dancing VERY sexy in any straight club, what would you get? A lot of dirty looks from women. But here at Exhale, one of the local Gay clubs, it was quite the opposite. 

I noticed the looks we get from the women in the club are not hateful, jealous or mean. They just smile and nod. What an amazing experience for me at least. I have always been trashed talked to by the way I dance. I have been called, horror, slut and everything in between because of how I dance. Music moves me in a very deep sensual way.  Can you blame me for expressing from my body? For the first time ever instead of being intimidated by the crowd I was LIBERATED!! The sweat began to poor from our bodies and we needed our drinks and break. We go back to the table and join Anna and Coleen.

At this point I excuse myself to use the ladies room, get in line and there are others in line behind me. I find something new comming from inside me…..fearless to stike conversation!! The two ladies behind me are absolutely beautifull and I let them know it!! As we strike up conversation I inform them I am a Bliss Warrior and tell them all about us. Amy respons with, “Are you kidding me?! You are Bi?! I have been dying to meet others like me!!?” Just as she makes this statement this very hot latina woman walks up to me and says, “NMbirl?? I’m muay muay!”" We hug kiss, all use the ladies room and all go back to our table.

As soon as we can get introductions out we finish our drinks and 7 hot women hit the dance floor again!! 7 quickly became 5 as Anna and Coleen wanted more discussion time. But the remaining 5 got freaky on the floor and had a blast!! We  all danced, drank and talked so long that the next thing you knew we were closing down the house and being asked to leave.

Such fond memories were created that night with some true Bliss Warriors. My favorite for me, besides seeing Gina, was the cute gay boy’s telling me I was the hottested girl in the club! Ahhh, they really know how to touch a girls heart!

Just Want To Put Something Out Into the Universe

When growing up my childhood, to say the least was non-existent. I suffered much sexual, physical, emotional abuse and neglect. A lot had to do with the lack of parenting skills by my mother. Mind you I am not one of those people who blame her. I wouldn’t trade my hardships for the world. I have gained a lot of knowledge and helped others with it. I work really hard to heal though wounds almost daily. But something happened last night that made so much of it all just disappear…..

My mother called last night. We started the conversation with the normal miss you’s and I love you’s.

Then she said, “I wish I could go back in time to like when you were ten.”

I responded, “I wouldn’t want that, I put you through so much and went through so much”

“I just wish I would have been a better mother to you” (mom)

“You have been a wonderful mother in so many ways.” (me)

“No, I wasn’t and I just want you to know that if I could go back in time, I would give you the world. You deserve it.” (mom)

Needless to say hearing it, and typing it now brings me to such a joyful, healing, beautiful, crying place. I’ve never felt more proud or more love for my mother!

A First Time - The Final Account

As I have mentioned in the previous post this was a night of many firsts. At this time I would like to go into details of those firsts…..

After Denise and I recovered from our wonderful orgasms, Rich had poured us each a new glass of wine. I have to admit for a first time with a woman whose man was there I continued to forget he really was. He was very much up unto this point a spectator. You could see he very much loved being in that position too. No angst for no real participation at this point. Even the moments to come he was more of an assistant and I truly got to enjoy so many wonderful new things.

The three of us proceeded into the bedroom and Denise asked, “Do you trust us?”. At this point I was so excited and satisfied I would trust anyone to do anything, and I did. Denise and Rich kissed and touched me as they laid me down on the bed. Denise grabbed a scarf and blindfolded me. This act in itself was so excititng and a bit scary that new sensations tingled all of my senses. Rich took each arm and leg and placed them into handcuffs that were already attached to the bed. Here I was completly vunerable to two people with absolutely no control. Instanly I could feel myself open up to this new sensation and I left a puddle between my legs.

Having kisses and hands all over me without seeing was suck an intense electric stimulous but nothing compared to the surprises that awaited me. The next thing I felt was a dildo being slid into my vagina. Slowly filling all of me I moan like I have never heard myself before. I swear the neighbors could hear! I can now feel Denise climb ontop of me and feel her body slowly push down towards mine. “Oh my god!? What is that?!”, I scream. Rich was the only one to respond, “A double headed dildo.” I have only seen such things in stores and now to feel what it does for women, have mercy!!

When Denise fully thrust towards me it opened our labias. When they touched our clits suction cupped together. I can’t even describe the exctasy that invaded my entire being while this woman bounced and grinded my groin inside and out. I began to have the most intense continuos orgasms of my life. Yes, multiple orgasms!! I didn’t believe they could exist for me, and here I was bucking and screamin on a constant level for more than just a mere second, or minute but what seemed like eternity.

After Denise and I had cum several times together I suddenly feel the dildo being removed from our bodies. I thought I was going to be released from my restraints but to my surprise there was more! Something was being attached to my clit! It was such a paculiar feeling. Then Denise started grinding me again and I realized our clits are attached to each other. I ask again, “What is that?”. Rich responds, “it’s a clit clip, just enjoy my dear.” A clit clip? I had never even heard of such a thing and was thrilled by yet ANOTHER new sensation and toy!

The night continued to the wee hours of the morning. It was more and more sessions of Rich assisting Denise and I enjoying each other. His direction of the two of us was the most sincere, kind and thoughtful participation of a man I had ever seen. Even to this day. It wasn’t even until after we had all slept that I was approached by Ricn for interaction with him, which Denise directly so lovingly. These firsts have been and probably will always remain the closest to my heart. Much more than losing my virginity. I have yet to even be with a woman again that would use a double header or clit clip with me again and it’s been 24 years of experience since then.

The time living with Denise and Rich ended soon after our first time togehter. Denise had a girlfriend Jeanie who would come and play with us during the day when Rich was at work. (yes a first time of all women three some, whew! that’s a whole nother blog) Rich became very jealous that he wasn’t participating in those events and I was asked to leave. It was a sad note that our relationship ended, but I still walked away with one of the most amazing experiences in my life.

It has been such a wonderful walk down memory lane sharing this story with you all. I hope you have enjoyed it!! XOXOXO

A First Time - Part 2

Denise wasn’t like the men I had been with, she didn’t dive right into to licking me. First she teased me, licking right between my labia and were the thigh comes together on each side. So soft and gentle, is this what making love is supposed to be like?? She teased with her tongue around my labia and not quite licking my clitoris, which by this point is so large it’s peaking out from my folds. I feel her fingers just outside my vagina, every so slight pushing against the entrance without penetration. Denise’s fingers part my lips and for the first time a woman’s mouth encompasses my entire clit.

The sensations that attacked my entire body were electric. Within only seconds I was peaking to a new level of orgasm I had never experienced before. My back was arched and every muscle in my entire body was flexed and I thought to myself, “Nothing could be better than this”. When suddenly as Denise plunged her fingers into me, Rich began stroking my hair and kissing me. I had completely forgotten there was somebody else there.

Rich was a complete gentleman, considering the circumstances. With every touch and kiss he would ask, “May I kiss you?”, “May I touch your breasts?”. I’ve never known a man to ask permission! This ignited my senses even more! With two sets of hands and two sets of lips all over my body, again I orgasm. The extremity of this orgasm was more intense with every second. “I’m coming again! Oh my God, I love this!”

Rich held me gently as Denise brought me the most passionate, violent, shaking my body had every experienced. As my body continued to twitch, Denise kissed my entire body from my thighs upward until she ended with a deep kiss on my mouth. This was the first taste of a woman I had ever had and it was myself! I had always feared even though I wanted a woman I wouldn’t be able to handle the taste…. I loved it! My complete exhaustion from the past hour had disappeared and all I could think was how I needed taste her.

As Denise and I kissed I rolled her onto her back. I followed her lead and kissed all over her slowly and sensuously. Deep but soft bites on her ears and neck, down her torso, hips, thighs, shins and slowly worked my way back up. Back to the crease between the thighs and the labia were I begin to lick.

I can smell her and it is intoxicating. I put off opening her labia to view and taste her. I’m so nervous and scared if I will perform to her capacity. I go for more kisses on her mouth; and she must be able to tell I’m nervous because she takes both hands around my face, looks me straight in the eyes and says, “Don’t worry, I will direct you…”

Denise guides my head back between her thighs and parts her labia. I can see all of her now. Pink lips, pink clit, shaved bald and her organ was pulsating from excitement. I start with the softest licks up and down the lines of each side. As I hear her moan I become even more excited and increase my speed but remain ever so soft. “Take my clit into your mouth and suck it while you lick it with your tongue.” Her command thrilled me even more and I eagerly obeyed.

Amazement swept me with such a new experience. The texture was so soft, slick and wet. The clit fit so easily in my mouth and doing as she requested was so much easier than oral sex with a man. Denise lifted her fingers away from parting her labia and I could feel them enfold each end of my mouth and touching my cheeks. Ahhhh, so soft and warm I feel as though I could this for hours!

Denise’s hips began to buck and I could hear moaning, yes’s and don’t stop’s continuously. I then followed my instincts with what she had performed earlier by taking my index and middle finger and begin pressing against the entrance to her vagina. But I did not enter, at least until she commanded me so, “Put two fingers in me, now!’

As I penetrated her with my fingers she began to buck more wildly and I could hear her say, “I’m goin’ to cum!” Right after I hear her say those words a warm liquid began to run down my face and chin while she grabbed my hair and forced my face even deeper onto her clit. Suddenly, I could feel my fingers being gripped so tightly by her vagina and she began to “ride” my fingers and face faster and faster. Her screams became louder, her grip on my hair tighter and then a flood of her juices all over me.

I now know that was a female ejaculation. I had no idea it even existed or how it felt. One thing for sure I felt so relieved, excited and proud that I could perform to her satisfaction. As we lay holding each other and kissing she says, “That was amazing, you’re a natural.”

I thought the night was coming to an end but it was far from over for firsts with a woman. Not to mention first for a threesome……..

(continued in part 3)

A First Time - Part One

Please forgive my writing style, it’s been many year’s since I have written for others to read. Here is part one. Let me know if you want to read more. Thank you! - Lacivia

All my life I have been attracted to women.; even as a child. My first kiss was the cute blond from across the street when I was 7. Even at that time I would sneak into my parents room and steal the Penthouse magazines. I was fascinated and excited but what I saw. Throughout the years nothing more than the flirtatious dancing with girlfriends and occasional kisses to drive the men crazy. But I always wanted more….

I was nineteen and had been living on my own for over 3 years now. My life was work and play all the way!! Well being 19 of course young and naive I ended up in a time where I desperately needed a place to stay. Working in a male dominated feild at the time it wasn’t hard to have a place in a moments notice. The hard decision was who…..

I selected Rich, 32 married with children. Thinking this would be the safest option for no pressure for a “trade” in rent and food. I pack my bags and drive to his home to meet the family. I am greeted by his wife Denise and instantly was attracted to her. 5′3, black hair, piercing blue eyes, full pink lips and the most voluptuous breast I had ever seen in my short life. She was wearing short shorts that were filled out with a very full, firm butt and a white tank top with no bra. I desired her instantly; but quickly dismissed the thought out of my mind. (I was nineteen she wouldn’t consider me…)

We existed well together, worked, cleaned and taking care of the children we were more like a well oiled family unit. After a few months Denise and I began to get very close as friends and she started discussing with me that her and her husband were swingers. I didn’t want to seem so naive and innocent; because really I wasn’t innocent just hadn’t tried everything yet and shared with her that my ex-boyfriend and I practiced the same beliefs. She proceeded to share with me about her girlfriends and photo shoots, lingerie nights, and play time. She could see how hungry I was to learn and suggested maybe one night we could have a lingerie night together with her and her husband. I didn’t have an interest in her husband at all but was so excited of the thought of being touched and kissed by Denise that I eagerly agreed.

The next weekend the kids were gone, no one had to work and the time was now. While Denise and I set off to the boudoir; Rich was setting the tone in the living room. Denise opens her closet to me and in amazement I entered a very large walk-in closet with nothing but lingerie. Lace, leather, latex, crotchless and everything else you could imagine. I select a purple lacy bustier with matching thong, garter and thigh highs. Denise undresses me and helps me into my outfit. By this time I was so excited I could hardly contain myself, but I do. Denise picks out a lovely black lace booty shorts, tank top and red paten leather pumps.

Rich had set a beautiful, romantic tone for the night. Candles lit up the entire house, a carpet picnic of wine, strawberries, cracker’s, grapes, and cheese. In the background is some light jazz and the setting brings me to a new ease. Denise and I stroll in front of Rich like a couple of models while he takes pictures of us in our lingerie. We drink some wine, snack on some food and continue on with some wonderful conversation on the living room floor picnic.

The conversations was light and playful. I became so relaxed I had forgotten what this night was all about. Rich goes off into the kitchen to get another bottle of wine. As I am taking the last sip from my glass I feel the softest touch on my neck, gently brushing the hair away. Chills ran exquisitely down my spine and instantly I was aroused. I could feel her hot breath with the sweet smell of wine approaching my neck. Next was the most sensual, soft, slow and deep bite on my neck. I am instantly no longer shy and no longer remember that I’ve never done this before; I was enraptured with my desire for this beautiful woman. I turn around look Denise in the eyes and experience my first passionate, sexual, intimate kiss with a woman……

Denise gently lays me down on the living room floor with her body on top of mine. She proceeds to passionately kiss and touch me all over. Exploring my body through the lingerie with her tongue, hands, fingers and strokes my entire body with her long black hair. Uncontrollably I am moaning with absolute delight; amazed at what a beautiful experience it is to be touched by a woman.

Denise kisses all down my torso, my groin and to my thighs. At this point she proceeds to pull my panties off, spreads my legs and begins gently lick, kiss and bite from my ankles, up my thighs and her face becomes so close to my clit that I feel how heavy her breathing is. She stops the kissing and looks so deep into my eyes as if waiting for permission then tell me, “You are so beautiful, Olivia, may I taste you?”. The questions itself made orgasm it seems that I can only nod as my reply.

She kisses me deeply on the mouth, grinds her pelvis against mine then slowly bites the inside of my hip bone. The ecstasy of the moment has me so wet I become very self conscience. I’ve never been so excited before by any man to have fluids run down myself. Denise had obviously been very experienced because she had noticed what she was doing to my body and how it was reacting. She said, “I can’t wait to taste those juice’s”.

Denise wasn’t like the men I had been with, she didn’t dive right into to licking me. First she teased me, licking right between my labia and the thigh come together on each side. So soft and gentle, is this what making love is supposed to be like?? She teased with her tongue around my labia and not quite licking my clitoris, which by this point is so large it’s peaking out from my folds. I feel her fingers just outside my vagina, every so slight pushing against the entrance without penetration. Denise’s fingers part my lips and for the first time a woman’s mouth encompasses my entire clit.