Hotel Bliss Guest Blog

Natural Beauty: The first installment - Guaranteed to be the funnest!

Well, my first natural beauty suggestion isn’t necessarily about beauty. At least, not on the outside. But since I discovered this little trick awhile back, I’ve been dying to tell people about it. Some of you may already know the benefits, but everyone else, get ready for a treat!

What’s got me all excited? Well it’s the beauty of coconut oil. But not just for its uses on the skin and hair (though there will definitely be more posts about that in the future). It’s about what a fantastic natural lube it makes!

I was surfing the net one day, looking for information to back up my belief that coconut oil is one of the healthier oils you can use for cooking, when I came across a blog talking about using it as a lube. I hadn’t really thought about that one, but the idea intrigued me, so I started doing some research. I’ve been looking to replace as many of my personal products as I can with natural alternatives, and you can’t get more natural than that!

After lots of reading, I decided to give it a shot. One night I blindfolded my man, smoothed some on my hands and started ‘working him’. He instantly knew it wasn’t our normal water based lube, and he definitely liked the difference. After playing with him for awhile I went up to kiss him. He was pleasantly surprised! (Well, he was already happy by that point!) We both love coconut, so the taste was an added bonus. After that first time, we haven’t gone back to our regular lube. The coconut oil is just too much fun!

If you’d like to give it a try, here are some pros and cons to consider:

Pros

1. It smells tastes like coconut! That is if you buy the right kind. You’ll want to buy a quality coconut oil. A good coconut oil will smell like fresh coconut. Avoid any that is RBD (refined, bleached, deodorized). Look for coconut oil that is extra virgin. Organic is best. This also applies to using coconut oil cosmetically – but that will be in another blog.
   
2. 100% edible. This makes it really fun to work with. I’ve found that the edible, store bought lubes taste weird, and I just never really trusted putting that stuff in my mouth. Also, if you are of the variety that is hindered by the smell or taste of oral, this can be of a real benefit for you!
3. Moisturizing. My man tends to be frisky in the morning. The problem is I tend get dry over night, both my mouth and my intimate parts. Using lube was our best option, but as I said, we don’t care for edibles, so it limited our options. That’s not a problem any more. And if I’m using my mouth my lips get super soft!
4. Good for him and her. My man and I have both used it on the other, and oh my we both love it so! We’re also very excited to someday use it on someone else *blush*

Cons

1. It tastes and smells like coconut oil. If you don’t like coconuts, well then this won’t be for you. Although you could try the RBD kind. The bleaching and processing takes the taste and odor out of the oil, but it also makes it less natural. I have not tried this kind (the smell and taste are the best part for us), but have read of others using it and enjoying it. I wouldn’t recommend it for cosmetic use, and definitely not for cooking. The more it’s processed, the less healthy it becomes.
2. Not for use with latex condoms. Oils are bad with latex. It is however completely safe with polyurethane condoms. I know that Trojan and Durex both make poly condoms.
3. Some clean up required. Me and my man use it liberally, so a shower is usually necessary afterward. This isn’t the stuff you would want to use during a quickie before you need to be somewhere.
4. It is an oil. I know that some women are wary of oil based lubricants. They say that oils leave a coating on the vaginal wall that is difficult to get rid of thus increasing the chance of bacteria and other infections. At the end of the day, you should make the choice best for you. We have been using coconut oil everywhere, and I mean everywhere, and haven’t had any issues yet. If you are worried, you can still use it safely for external fun. Great for massages!

Working with coconut oil

Coconut oil is solid until around 76 degrees. If your house is cooler than that, you’ll notice it has more the consistency of butter. It melts quickly when rubbed in your hands, so you could scoop some and start an intimate massage on the body part of your choosing. We put some in squeeze bottle and if it’s become too solid, we pop it in the microwave for a few seconds. (Don’t get it too hot! Ouch!)

As I said before, it can get messy (but fun messy!). Being an oil, it has the chance to leave oil stains on sheets and bedding. As of yet, we haven’t noticed any, but if you’re worried about that, perhaps put down a blanket that you don’t care about.

Where to find coconut oil

I’m a frequent shopper at the natural food store down the street from me, and they usually have no less than four brands of good quality coconut oil. I haven’t really looked in a regular grocery store, but if you find any, as I said before, make sure it’s extra virgin and (if possible) organic.

That’s it for my first installment. I hope you enjoy this one as much as we do (and we really, really do). Please share any thoughts or stories if you’ve already tried it!