Asking for Recommendations…
Written by blueabad on May 28, 2008 – 12:22 am -But there is no one that I’m comfortable talking to or looking at it around right now… I will probably get my boyfriend to read it at some point, but I sort of wanted it to be my own thing right now… So will you ladies help me, please? Recommendations are very welcome…..
My thought right now is to post w4mw under platonic, and also in w4w… very few women post in w4w, there seems to be more w4w in platonic that are actually curious about dating.. but here is my rough draft:
Bisexual, but mostly experience with guys. I find it hard to hit on women and timing was bad a few times so that a relationship wasn’t possible. I have more guy friends than girls, and semi-new to the area.
In open relationship with my boyfriend, exploring polyamory.. communicating is key in making dating multiple people work. I am more than willing to discuss this, since it is misunderstood and its easier than trying to explain it all… if you want to know, please ask… I chicken out from hitting on anyone oftentimes because I don’t want to mislead them.
Love to read, learn, be artsy, dye hair, etc. I read blogs on how to be green, thifty, and organize your house. I’m somewhat dorky and enjoy videogames, the Halos and DDR among my favorites
Looking for friends, down-to-earth, open-minded people… and romantically I’m very interested in women.. I’m pretty sure I’m not really capable of a ‘casual encounter’, I am too curious and not ready to jump in the sack with a stranger… I try to reply to ads, but so far not had anything pan out. I figure if I’m somewhat interested and I don’t reply, its discouraging them from thinking anybody is out there.. I chose to believe that there are people out there and this is one way to meet them.
Peace
In case you can’t tell.. I am probably trying to hard because I’m nervous and want to make a good impression… I want to say as much as possible that they either should know or that I want them to be interested in also.. ::sigh:: I almost wish I didn’t care so much, or that I wasn’t as curious as I am. I do reply to ads, but its been bots or no replies, to platonic or otherwise…
Anyone have a success story to lift my gloom a little? I am on the verge of chickening out of even posting it… which makes me feel very lame. I need to keep the faith, I think… and I have nothing to lose, right?
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Pretty good. It might be a bit long for some people, but hey, if they can’t take the time to read your whole ad then they’re probably not worth your time anyways. I wish I had a success story to share with you, but CL here in Denver seems to be populated with those looking for a 1 night stand (not my thing) or hardcore Lesbians to whom bi-sexual is a dirty word. Or people only looking for 1 on 1 action. Sorry, but I don’t meet or play with anyone without my husband at least being present. Hang in there hun. Things may seem bleak, but that is generally (imho) when exactly who/what you’re looking for comes into your life.
Oh, and welcome to the hotel. We have some of the most caring and compassionate women I’ve ever run across on here.
My husband and I practice polyamory, too. One thing I can say is it is never an easy road to finding those connections you want to be with. We have each had our flings, not that that is what we wanted it is just how things worked out. I’ve been in my new town for a year and half now and only had one female lover. She was a lesbian and needless to say it didn’t work out. There have been opportunity with “swingers” and let’s just say that is NOT what we want. But I still try by slowly getting the bi girls in town to respond to my myspace events. Slowly but surely. And just when I was about to give it up, someone else needs someone to talk to.
I’m part of Lacivia’s group of Bigirls. We are having a hard time getting more people to come out and meet. But slow and steady wins the race. Like Bella and Lacivia, I’m not really looking for flings and am already involved in a wonderful relationship with a loving man. I tend to be the girl invited to join couples. I know that if I exist, there must be others out there who have the same mindset. Unfortunately, like any relationship, the right girl will come along when you least expect it. Warmest Kisses and good luck to you in your search.
Dearest Bluebad, I actually HAVE had some good experiences with CL. Admittedly, I have had several bad experiences, and it does take some perseverance - but in my opinion, it’s worth it. I’ve had three meetings successful meetings off of Craigslist and several emails and coffee dates that didn’t work out. I think your post is good, maybe a bit long but I think that’s good in CL ads. It signifies a real person. All of the posts I have EVER responded to were at least close to your length. I think in some ways, the more honest you are the better it is.
Best of luck, and I really hope you find what you’re looking for. Keep us posted!
I have found that images really help make your CL ad more noticeable. They do not have to be pictures of you, initially, but images that really capture what you love and that give a sense of what you think is beautiful. I have posted pictures of fairies kissing, faceless images of me, and other sensual images of women. I know that a good picture really can make someone curious about you and get a better sense of your taste.
Also, many Bliss Warrior readers have had success meeting girls by posting about the blog and the site. (And, no, I am not just shamelessly begging for promotion - this is true.) Girls have posted ads with a reference to my blog or myspace page or the hotel and said, “Check it out - If you are a girl like me, you’ll love this.” It’s also a nice way to get the shy girls who may be too afraid to respond directly to you to join the hotel and meet you there.
And, like L. said, hosting a brunch in your hometown is a great way to meet girls for friendship and they might have a friend for you to meet for more!
XOXOXOXOXO
BLISS