Needing the perspective of other Outrageous Women
Written by dirtygurrrl on May 18, 2008 – 8:34 pm -Well, since this is my first post here and most of you don’t know me very well, I’m going to tell you some background information before I ask my question.
I was married not long after college to a man named Glen. It lasted for 9 years, produced two amazing boys, and then ended horribly. For the first year after the divorce, I was pretty bitter about the whole thing. And it didn’t help that he was under the mistaken notion that I would still cater to his every whim. But we eventually ironed things out. I grew a backbone and started standing up to him and he earned a new respect for me.
At this point, we are getting along great. He’s communicative about his plans when it affects me, and we are working pretty great as a team in raising our boys. I’ve even had some great phone conversations with his fiance (who is also my son’s godmother, which is a whole other story).
I’m invited to the wedding. And I’ve said that I’ll go. I think it’s important for my sons to see that there is no bad blood there. That they don’t have to feel like they have to choose between me and their new stepmom. That this just means they have one more person they can count on who loves them wholeheartedly.
My guy is still deployed to Africa, so I’ll be going to the wedding alone. Which kinda sucks. But I’ll go, and I’ll look fabulous and smile brightly. What I want to know is. . .just how petty is it that I want to go to that wedding and outshine the bride? And the groom, for that matter. I want to steal the show. Which is why I will leave early. Cause I know it would be bitchy to steal their thunder on this special day. I know it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of me. I am quite positive that I’m the very best Me in the whole world. But it’s just so very important to me that I not look pathetic there alone at his wedding.
Thanks for listening
Dirty Gurrrl
Oh! And if anyone can tell me the etiquette of wedding attire I’d be grateful. Can I wear black if it’s not ALL black? What about white? And I’m just making an educated guess, but see-through tops are off limits, right? hehehe
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